NOT OF THE WORLD

Looking at this photo makes me realise how faithful God is. It reminds me of all the prayers i used to make to God. I remember asking God to give me something to do even before i cleared school. And guess what happened, my graduation got delayed by a whole year, in the meantime God answered my prayer. The smile on my face is not because of the popularity of my degree(I doubt if my mother even remembers what i studied) or my GPA. It’s coz of the goodness of God.

I also prayed that uni would never make me think that being young and saved was unfashionable. Looking back i got nothing to regret, i count it all joy. I never got fascinated with the lifestyle of turning up and all that kind of stuff(not really bashing anyone who is). I remember my friends and even relatives making fun of me whenever i shared my ‘forms’, kesha☺☺(night givil

)…am still very consistent with them btw…There is just a way no matter how convicted you are about what you do, being made fun of brings doubt. But still i sailed through safely💪. Glory to God🙌. I did not just graduate with BSc(CRM) but with integrity, resilience, self control, wisdom, contentment and life skills(and am taking masters on them btw😜). I didn’t just sit academic tests, but life tests too-they were actually more tough😥…Now you understand the smile😁😁
To Be Continues……….

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IS YOUR LIGHT SHINNING?

I said I’ll continue☺☺
Let’s talk GPA😯. I don’t think this will go down well with everyone, but that’s the thing, we are normally very keen not to offend everyone, but God. So just allow me to step on someone’s toe😜.
Since i was young i had always upheld and purposed to be a person of integrity. And it was quite easy until i landed in University. I remember as a kid in primary school being sent with a marking scheme(zile za A,B,C,D) from one teacher to another. I never understood why the teacher thought i would not peep or get my own copy on the way. This humbled me and made me not to dare check.

Then Uni happened, being a person who love excellence, i really wanted to get a first class honours😂😂…but before that i wanted to change my course, so you can tell i didn’t concentrate on my studies that much (this is story for another day). Exams time in uni was crazy. It was reality check. I remember this perticular time i heard someone asking his ‘neighbour’ for answers, and when i heard the points she was given, i knew they were wrong in as much as i didn’t know the right ones😂(You can tell i was eaves dropping😜)

My first and part of second years went on with me struggling to choose between the right thing and the convenient thing. I remember this particular time i called a friend to bail me out on a question and she decided to give me her question paper with the answers (in points form) scribbled. I Got scared to death because we had to swarp the question paper, plus i couldn’t explain any of the points. I panicked, and of course flopped. See how cheating is expensive!

After this experience and a few other bad ones i purposed in my heart that i would fully trust God with my studies as i had before. It was a secret personal decision that i couldn’t (back then) explain to my friends. This meant studying harder because ‘harambees’ were over, there were no more ‘clusters formations’ and all that kind of thing. I even purposed to avoid my study mates in exam room because i knew they would bail me out in case they saw me stuck. How philanthropic, haha! I would also avoid wearing my specks during exams so that i could not see my ‘neighbour’s’ answers. Thank God for my short sightedness.

God was working in me, i remember asking myself what advice on integrity i would offer to the kids i teach (being a sunday school teacher) if i wasn’t walking the talk. Don’t you think that if i really trusted God with my salvation, i could also trust Him with my studies? There was this day i was praying during exams and God revealed me that He is the one who gives jobs and not a good fabricated GPA. He even gave me a picture of someone who probaby has ‘As’ which are based on cheating, the way he looks at them and sees C,D or a B. I Got the conviction that i would rather get a B, C even a D that is genuine than a ‘stolen’ A. And if i was really i need of an A, i should work harder. I remember how radical my exams prayers were. And whenever i would feel stuck and would be tempted to take a sneak peek on a neighbour’s paper, i would pray again.

What if academic test are life tests in disguise? What if they were testing our honesty, hardwork, determination, self control, persistence, integrity, critical thinking? What if it’s a way of testing our concentration in class? Whst if it is a way of testing our bravery? It’s not any brave to cheat. Is it? Could it be that the intention is not really to test who can cram what, rather, who can use them later in life. Don’t get me wrong, am not encouraging anyone to aim lower than excellence, but really to look at education from a broader lens. If you didn’t really get that A but got skills and virtues thank God for them, they are very important. If you got a good grade too (genuinely), it’s a plus but look at what else school taught you and treasure it.

It’s funny how when i purposed to go God’s way, i even excelled than when i compromised. This made me realise that you are just as stupid as you think you are! I didn’t know that depending on people was making them gods and as a result was sabotaging purpose and ruining my reputation. Though ‘As’ were now harder to manufacture but even then, when i didn’t get my best i knew whatever i got, was genuine, and i challenged myself to study harder. Cheating has a way of encouraging laziness and closing our mind from thinking. Whenever i could not remember answers i knew i only had myself and God to engage in this thinking game and manufacture an anwers. I learnt how to depend on God for remembrance completely.

Am i just talking about uni, or studies? No! not at all! Probably you there looking at this post and thinking that it only applies to university students. You could probably be thinking, ‘I already blew it’ N/A! Well, not really! This is just to remind us that we got to choose Christ 24/7. We can trust Him with our careers, while choosing our partners or in our businesses- without compromising. His plan for us is perfect! We may not see it at the moment, but in the long run we will be grateful. God wants us as believers to stand out in the world just as he wanted Israelites to stand out among idolaters. If you think His standards are way too High, ask Israelites how easy it was to worship the God you did not see. Of course there are moments they tripped, but still stood up and got reconciled back to Him. And God was merciful, He still is. So if you’ve tripped, get up!

God wants us to trust him in everything. We should not be overcome by evil but we should overcome evil with good. In a world where everyone is compromising, choose to stand for what is right, no matter what everyone else is doing. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. The bible also says in Romans 12:2 ‘Do not be conformed to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-His good, pleasing and perfect will.’

Matthew 5:16

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

G-Tala

The Whole Duty of Man

The day i die i want to be remembered as a person who has accomplished the whole duty of man; Fearing God and obeying His Commandments (loving God, and loving people Luke 10:27) Ecc 12:13…anything besides this is a sideshow and less of it is a failure.

Christ had such great love for us that he laid down His life for us( He raises our status from servants to friends-and later to brothers and co heirs with HIm (Romans 8:17)in this scripture , Luke 15:13), John later challenge us to do likewise for our friends ‘He laid His life for us, we ought to lay our lives for the brethren(1John 3:16), we all see how God did it through Christ in John 3:16.

Am i saying we should also die for each other, YES and no (yes, because persecution is part and parcel of all Christian-there are places you will go to evangelize and get to pay with your own life, most of the apostles did-remember paul has said ‘To die is gain to live is Christ, Phil 1:20-21…and Not all will die while spreading the gospel, some will get scorned, use their finances, time, give up their careers, basically go the trouble to reach out to a brother)…All this must be love driven, 1John 4:20 says we cannot claim to love God whom we’ve not seen if we don’t love a brother whom we’ve seen…Romans 5:8(Paraphrased) God demonstrates His love that while we were still sinnes Christ died for us, 7 says.Rarely can anyone die for a righteous man. probably for a good person one would dare to die…it’s very hard to love a bad person( whom sometimes is me and you) but still let’s do it-it pleases God, plus He’s been there…in conclusion: let’s fear(Revere) God, Love God and Love your neighbour

Diclaimer: for the superstitious people this is not some death note😂😂…am gonna be alive for long to love all of you😍😍

G-Tala

Mentor-Sheep!

I look up, i see no one. I look on the side, i see no one. Even within, i see no one. This is the kind of era we live in. There’s literary no one in our reach to look up to, Sad story!. Those who’ve gone ahead of us have failed, infact they have missed the mark by far such that they are now a bad example story, ‘usikue kama fulani’. Our peers are not yet there, neither do they seem to be heading anywhere close to that destination. As for me, I would be assured that i’ll make it if at all i had even just one person who’ve made it, to act as an encouragement.

‘Ifikie Wazazi’…na wakijua, Wataduu?? what if wanajua?. hehe, In my opinion i think this was a lot of social media noisemaking! I don’t think kids can get this far without parents (who are not absent) noticing even just a glimpse of it. Someone said ‘if you are weak in an area or have failed and never overcome it, you lose your moral authority in that area, such that you cannot correct anyone in such a matter. That is where the bond of contention is.

This ‘Ifikie wazazi story is just but an example. Children, teenagers and even youths do not have role models in adults anymore. If a child grows in a house where everyday is party time and boos fight for space in the fridge with his milk as toddler, then his sodas as a teenager-the next place will be in his glass disguised as juice during high school rebellious phase. Infact, this perticular one will not sneak out to go for ‘turn up’ or house parties because there will be one right in his room. The next thing you realize is an alcoholic-a rehab case right in your house. How sad!

Truth be told Adults have failed in being role models to the younger generation, from the way they act, the way they dress, the way they spend and even the way they talk. Some of parents to current teens are the likes that eloped and their parents only knew that you were married after they gave birth to your first daughter who is now this teen who is expected to behave right. The worst part is that granny keeps retelling this story as a bad example story, i mean! Do you expect to tell off such a teen, once you suspect that ‘she takes too long’ when you send her to run errands, or she has been ‘borrowing too many books’? The Bible says teach your child in the way they should be and when they grow they shall never depart from it. The ‘teaching’ here is not just for parents, it starts even before you have your own children, by you living a life that you’ll want your child to admire and even emulate. You don’t live for yourself but for your generation!

Do you know why all our parents were ‘position ones’, and only school fees made them miss university? In fact they even excelled without shoes on their feet, torn uniform and all the farm duties. They were all called to national schools, failed to attend due to lack of school fees, went to a day school, where they still excelled but joined the police force( like my own dad) or started a business due to lack of school fees for campus. This story is similar even for those you can tell clearly didn’t go beyond class 7 (KCPE level of those days). It all backfires on them the day you find their certificate. I wouldn’t support them using a lie to encourage us to study hard, but i understand their push for excellence among their children. It’s funny because we would end up working hard and performing just as our stagemanaged ‘heros’.

I remember seeing my mums black and white photos in her mini dresses and her nice Afro, i decided it was the end of her saying anything about my short or tight clothes. Thank God i don’t even like revealing clothes. Many young people wouldn’t want to be told What someone else did and backfired on them. Actually they think they are super human and they may get a different outcome. How many times have heard phrases like ‘that was you’ ‘this is my life’ ‘let me also try’ or ‘you enjoyed your life, let me also do so’. No matter how bad your burn looks, there will always be another young person who want to touch the fire.

Young people love to experiment, your word may not be enough. If you have a ‘bad example story’ they want to try the very same thing and see it fail. If you went to a party, didn’t wanna drink,but you got tricked and your drink was spiked and got raped. They will still want to try go for one expecting different results. They think probably you were just careless or it was just your unlucky day. ‘This things don’t always happen like this’ or ‘that was then’ or even ‘that was you’ those are responses you’ll often get.

Dont get me wrong, am not trying to judge anyone who may have messed up or may have had an ugly past. My point is, lets live lives that can be emulated. You don’t know who may be watching. Young people have destinies that you can help them protect or destroy. The Bible is very strict about the fate of those who make little ones to sin, it says that a stone should be hanged on their neck and thrown into the sea (Luke 17:2, Mark 9:42) .Let our action speak louder than our words when it comes to mentorship. Young people don’t listen to what you say, they look at what you do. So do it right!

I’ll leave you with this heavy words of legacy song we used to sing high school. May they all who come behind us find us faithful, may the power of our devotion light their way, may the footprints that we leave lead to believe and the life we leave inspire them to obey.

G-Tala

‘Know Your worth and Add tax on it’

I have seen people post this quote on social media a number of times. unfortunately in all the instances i found it missused. Normally, the quote is followed by a picture( am sorry fellow sisters, but in all my encounters it was by ladies) posing with a little bit too much focus on their ‘assets’.It got me thinking, Could it be that we do not know what our worth is?

I won’t pretend, i know how good it feels when sending this message to this ex that you want to feel that you are more worthy than he thought you were while ‘dumping’ you. The urge is greater when it’s a crush that saw you better as a friend and decided to friend zone you, after leading you on-cutting short your expectations. Sometimes it could even be a boyfriend who is undecided and you want to give a wake up call before he waste your time. In our morally decayed society, it could be a married ‘fisi’ colleague who think he could easily get a side chic. In worst cases it could be an old folk won’t stop pestering you with a ‘sponsorship’ offer thinking you are an easy target.

I got no problem at all with this message sent forth. My problem would be in our understanding of our worth. Allow me to narrow down my audience to us ladies. All the above are already the wrong people to attract in our lives, and if we fail to know where our worth is, we’ll keep attracting the same species from different families. The only difference would be their genetic make up…haha! What would you you expect from the same species?

It’s the high time our understanding of our worth shifted from the steepness of our ‘behind’, it not in the size of our hip line, neither is it in how beautiful our cleavage looks. How can that be in this socialite era? It’s not in our skin tone, while River Road exist, it can’t be in the inches of our Brazilian weave or in our perfect faces while foundation can perfectly serve it’s purpose, and photo editors never disappoint. It can’t be in how our body con fits when cosets are easily available.

So where is our worth? allow me to go to the Bible.1Cor 6:19-20 “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s”

We belong to God, and we are so worthy because we neither belong to any man nor to ourselves, but to the only creator of heaven and earth. You are so worthy that God had to give His only begotten son, who before then was seated with Him on Throne. He had to lower Him a little lower than the angels, and allow Him to come die for you. You are so worthy that because of you, God forsook His own son, got separeted from Him and allowed Him to bear pain and shame. Because of how worthy you are, His blood was shed, He was bruised, accused and sput on. Does this make you feel precocious?

This worth superceed the money you spend on salon, your beauty regime, sass, glam and class. It’s the worth that is within and cannot dimish with age or circumstance. It can never be taken away from you. It’s free of charge and eternal.

People can break you but never make you Worthless. You got Christ-worth. The next time you want to exhibit your worth don’t pose seductively, pull up scriptures. You can add tax on it,

insurance, interest and even a Tithe! Haha!

G-Tala

Be-YOU-ti-full

Growing up i thought being plum was the in thing. I have always been a tall skinny girl, right from when i was little. This was expected, having be born by a slim mother and a father who was a good definition of a TDH(fit enough to be cop).

I remember being so skinny that most of my pants were what we call ‘don’t touch ‘, a common phrase for pants that do not reach the soul of my feet. This is simply because most of those that were long enough were too buggy for me. This was the case all through my childhood towards my early teenage. I used to think i had an issue(like cursed). I remember even keeping very high hygiene because i thought being hygienic would boost my body weight ( i was blonde and desperate to gain weight)

It was not until i went to highschool and form 2 happened. Well, for many teens if you are keen this is where grades go down and weight come, for some it come with identity crises since there is a new body size (sometimes shape) which is unexpected and you have to adjust to and learn to dress it..haha.

Personally i realised that my weight increase was as a result of stress due to the ‘poor’ grades(they were not thaaat bad). This went on till few years into campus since i didn’t even like my form four grade that much- i had always wanted to get a straight A, which was less with a few grades. Of course people spoke, and made a fuss about it. Many are the times i would be told to work on it. I cared less, i remembered being skinny and being bothered with it, i wasn’t going to be bothered about having added a little weight too.

Fast forward am in my third year and now people start talking again, ‘umecut’…meaning you’ve lost weight, am eating enough, no exercise, no dieting or anything of the sort. One year later its serious because i was now the most skinny in the family yet am the tallest, haha. At some point i even got ‘usicut tena’ and even ‘try kugipea statue’ funny! No one have absolute control to the way they weigh.

It will surprise you that when i did an exclusive body check up the other day, i was told that my BMI is okay, my blood pressure is fine among many other things…funny enough, i have to skip a bit, trek or jog coz apparently i have excessive body fats(whatever they called it)

This isn’t just about me! it’s about anyone who has been told you are too fat or too skinny or too dark or too light. There is a body size for every season if you find yourself size 8 enjoy being petite and rock all the skinny jeans and shorts. Well if you are blessed to be a plus size seasonally for life time, it is not bad either curves are beautiful. You will never be good enough for Everyone. Just do you, be you be be-YOU-ti-full.

G-Tala

Can you be modest and still Fashionable?

Let me start by making a disclaimer, well, am not the epitome of modesty neither am i some fashionista. However, i love playing around with what i wear and am ready to be used by God to promote fashion that is modest or should i say not too revealing.

Many young people-even those born again (I included) have at one point been at crossroads, trying to choose modest over fashion or vise versa. Am here with good news, well, you don’t have to be in this dilemma any more. The fact is that there is nothing fashionable about being scanty. How can scanty be fancy?

Let’s navigate through the Scriptures and and see what we’ve based our lives on say concerning the same.

1 cor 10:13- Do you not know that your body is the temple of the holy spirit, which you have from God?…… when it’s Sunday we all dress well knowing that we are are going to the House of God. Today our bodies are the very temple, the same way we perceive church as very special place, we should treat our bodies With the same honor and respect…Eccl 11:9 Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment. If i may put the scripture into context, we are encouraged to have fun in our youth( for this case with our dressing, Mix colors try daring fashion hacks, wear reaped jeans, try out canvas or sneakers with a dress, do all colors of hair but make sure it’s all pleasing before God.

Finally, 1 Tim 4:12, Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. In this scripture the standards are set high, being young and yet setting an example is not easy. It calls for one to go beyond the bar set by the world. The world has it’s definition of good but as a believer you can’t afford to be unequally yoked, you have to go beyond what’s termed as good. Good is not good enough, go for godly.

My opinion for fashion and decency is: “DON’T CHANGE TO FIT THE FASHION, CHANGE THE FASHION TO FIT YOU”

G-Tala