I look up, i see no one. I look on the side, i see no one. Even within, i see no one. This is the kind of era we live in. There’s literary no one in our reach to look up to, Sad story!. Those who’ve gone ahead of us have failed, infact they have missed the mark by far such that they are now a bad example story, ‘usikue kama fulani’. Our peers are not yet there, neither do they seem to be heading anywhere close to that destination. As for me, I would be assured that i’ll make it if at all i had even just one person who’ve made it, to act as an encouragement.
‘Ifikie Wazazi’…na wakijua, Wataduu?? what if wanajua?. hehe, In my opinion i think this was a lot of social media noisemaking! I don’t think kids can get this far without parents (who are not absent) noticing even just a glimpse of it. Someone said ‘if you are weak in an area or have failed and never overcome it, you lose your moral authority in that area, such that you cannot correct anyone in such a matter. That is where the bond of contention is.
This ‘Ifikie wazazi story is just but an example. Children, teenagers and even youths do not have role models in adults anymore. If a child grows in a house where everyday is party time and boos fight for space in the fridge with his milk as toddler, then his sodas as a teenager-the next place will be in his glass disguised as juice during high school rebellious phase. Infact, this perticular one will not sneak out to go for ‘turn up’ or house parties because there will be one right in his room. The next thing you realize is an alcoholic-a rehab case right in your house. How sad!
Truth be told Adults have failed in being role models to the younger generation, from the way they act, the way they dress, the way they spend and even the way they talk. Some of parents to current teens are the likes that eloped and their parents only knew that you were married after they gave birth to your first daughter who is now this teen who is expected to behave right. The worst part is that granny keeps retelling this story as a bad example story, i mean! Do you expect to tell off such a teen, once you suspect that ‘she takes too long’ when you send her to run errands, or she has been ‘borrowing too many books’? The Bible says teach your child in the way they should be and when they grow they shall never depart from it. The ‘teaching’ here is not just for parents, it starts even before you have your own children, by you living a life that you’ll want your child to admire and even emulate. You don’t live for yourself but for your generation!
Do you know why all our parents were ‘position ones’, and only school fees made them miss university? In fact they even excelled without shoes on their feet, torn uniform and all the farm duties. They were all called to national schools, failed to attend due to lack of school fees, went to a day school, where they still excelled but joined the police force( like my own dad) or started a business due to lack of school fees for campus. This story is similar even for those you can tell clearly didn’t go beyond class 7 (KCPE level of those days). It all backfires on them the day you find their certificate. I wouldn’t support them using a lie to encourage us to study hard, but i understand their push for excellence among their children. It’s funny because we would end up working hard and performing just as our stagemanaged ‘heros’.
I remember seeing my mums black and white photos in her mini dresses and her nice Afro, i decided it was the end of her saying anything about my short or tight clothes. Thank God i don’t even like revealing clothes. Many young people wouldn’t want to be told What someone else did and backfired on them. Actually they think they are super human and they may get a different outcome. How many times have heard phrases like ‘that was you’ ‘this is my life’ ‘let me also try’ or ‘you enjoyed your life, let me also do so’. No matter how bad your burn looks, there will always be another young person who want to touch the fire.
Young people love to experiment, your word may not be enough. If you have a ‘bad example story’ they want to try the very same thing and see it fail. If you went to a party, didn’t wanna drink,but you got tricked and your drink was spiked and got raped. They will still want to try go for one expecting different results. They think probably you were just careless or it was just your unlucky day. ‘This things don’t always happen like this’ or ‘that was then’ or even ‘that was you’ those are responses you’ll often get.
Dont get me wrong, am not trying to judge anyone who may have messed up or may have had an ugly past. My point is, lets live lives that can be emulated. You don’t know who may be watching. Young people have destinies that you can help them protect or destroy. The Bible is very strict about the fate of those who make little ones to sin, it says that a stone should be hanged on their neck and thrown into the sea (Luke 17:2, Mark 9:42) .Let our action speak louder than our words when it comes to mentorship. Young people don’t listen to what you say, they look at what you do. So do it right!
I’ll leave you with this heavy words of legacy song we used to sing high school. May they all who come behind us find us faithful, may the power of our devotion light their way, may the footprints that we leave lead to believe and the life we leave inspire them to obey.